We can’t have selective attention towards situations in our lives. Otherwise we only see them as we want them to be for us, whether it be positive or negative. We have to see it as it is, for its truest nature, and keep that separate from our hopes and dreams of what it could be. There is also a vast difference between how things were and how things are now, in the present, and we musn’t compare the two, because time has a funny way of changing things, and we can’t put the past and the present on the same spectrum, even though we have the tendency to do that. We can’t constantly search for what confirms our beliefs, taking whatever evidence we can find to reassure us that what we believe is right. We just have to take situations as they are in its purest form and to prosper from that. It will be impossible to grow if we search for answers rather than the underlying truth. It will be impossible to move on if we hold onto what damages us because we believe that it gives us substance, that we need to make this pain worthwhile. It’s poor coping skills. But it is strength that we have within us that matters. And all of us have it, much more than we believe, we just have to recognize it and utilize it to combat every single ounce of hurt that has manifested in us before the hurt we feel becomes ingrained in us. We have to look at the world with truthful eyes and a forgiving heart, this way we can see the truth for its entirety and forgive not others, but ourselves. It will be easier on us. We need to forgive ourselves more often that we need to forgive others.
To look at yourself with genuine love is one of the hardest tasks to achieve in this world. To love your fears, your flaws, your misperceptions, your lost of control, your mistakes, your stripped power, your lack of understanding is not impossible. Personally, I believe that being able to love yourself is one of the most durable platforms you could have in life, because once you love yourself, you will always forgive yourself. Love is absolutely ubiquitous and you are always lovable, always. Don’t ever forget that, and I always here for a reminder if you need one. In any case, I will remind you despite :)