"I love the cherry blossoms!"
"Woah! You notice that? Most people don’t notice those small things! They bloomed last Wednesday!"
"Yeah! I love noticing little things about spring. It just looks more beautiful."
"I love the smell of the cherry blossoms. It’s so subtle but most people don’t notice it"
"It makes me feel like I’m in a foreign country!"
"Like Japan or Taiwan!"
"Oh I get it now. San Jose doesn’t have creative energy. It’s more industrial, keep-to-themselves kind of thing."
"YES! Most people respond to me like I’m insane. I compliment people and ask questions all the time and they look at me like I’m on drugs. One time I was just about at my friend’s car to open his door when somebody, whose car was parked right next to his, got out of their car and I said hello and my friend thought I was insane for instigating that brief interaction."
"When I first moved to Santa Cruz, I could tell people thought I was crazy too! They can’t handle my high energy and creative curiosity to learn about everything that surrounds me!"
"Well I just applied to 2 psychology-related jobs in the Bay Area but I’m really nervous they won’t even call me back!"
"Dude you’re so smart I don’t know why you should worry! Also you’re so personable"
"You think so?! I already imagined myself at the interview being like "I don’t know how I will contribute to your company, I just will" while twiddling my thumbs and being really anxious, because I know they’re going to ask me how I can be an asset to the team and what I can provide and I won’t have a concrete answer"
"I think they would hire you anyway because you just radiate good vibes!" <3 <3 <3
"Everything comes around. Everybody realizes things for themselves. Everybody learns."
"NO WAY. That is my exact philosophy! I don’t believe anything is lost, and I believe life is a rubber band that never snaps! You may stretch further away from people but that doesn’t mean you guys won’t cross paths again. Like you and I! I saw your status on Facebook of you needing a ride to the airport and we reconnected after over half a year of not seeing each other. Nothing disappears. Everything already exists!"
"Were you a science major? You seem like you understand the science department at UC Santa Cruz really well."
"I almost was a biology minor! And I just notice trends easily. It’s so competitive there. It’s all selfish - just revealing enough information so that you excel over others. Everybody uses others to gain knowledge to ace the exam but they don’t actually help others during study sessions. I think science majors are insane!"
"DUDE ME TOO. You know how they say art majors are insane, because they’re so far out there, but it’s like these science majors become obsessed! It’s all about science, nothing else"
"It’s like they become mind-controlled by their major! They stop taking care of themselves, they don’t even know night from day."
"DUDE EXACTLY. That’s the thing about science majors, you gotta hold your mentality. You gotta be above the system in order to keep your sanity. You gotta just relax, take a step back, and just see that it’s just science and stop obsessing over everything"
"I couldn’t live in Santa Cruz after undergrad. I think it was perfect for undergrad and a nice place to visit but I feel like I would slump around there. Santa Cruz moves really slowly"
"No I totally get you. I need somewhere fast-paced"
"Yeah! Me too. And I feel like Santa Cruz is so accepting that you can just do whatever you want with your life, even if it means doing nothing. And I totally accept that, I’m not saying it’s a boring or shabby life, that’s just not my life. That’s the thing about Bay Area I feel. The ideal life is work form 9-6 and drink on the weekends. People in the Bay Area have this sort of peter pan complex where they never grow up. They’re slower to start their lives. But I’m so much more than that, I can’t be content doing that"
"No dude me too! I have to constantly be moving and learning and creating"
"That’s exactly how I am! Party on Friday, read a science book on Saturday!"
"Dude we totally get each other"
"When does your lease end?"
"Not until October! That’s because I moved during my last quarter"
"Oh yeah I totally remember!"
"Oh yeah it was when I bumped into you on the bus in September!"
"Dude that’s crazy I just had an image of us there!"
"Do you do art?"
"Yeah! I like to sketch and paint, but I need to get back into it! Do you? You seem like a person who has high creative flow"
"Heh I wish I don’t create art but I’m an avid art appreciator!"
"That’s what it’s all about! Appreciating art. What makes art good anyway?"
"Oh my god EXACTLY. Too many people are focused on what’s good versus bad and I question them"
"It’s just art!"
"I feel like we’re just like each other! You’re really mentally organized but your outer life is more scattered"
"Dude yes but everything always happens the way it should! If it doesn’t, then it’s just not meant to be. Like I didn’t have a ride to the airport so I was gonna bus it and cab it and then I remembered your offer which is why I texted you at 1am. Everything always has a way of working itself out, that’s why I don’t worry"
We’re intuitively connected <3 I think my interaction with her is about one of the most emotionally and intuitively filled conversations I’ve had in a while. The way she’s so balanced on art versus science astounds me. I love the way we interact like we’ve known each other for years. She asks me questions all the time, and we bounce topics without feeling like the last topic had abruptly ended. She insisted on paying for gas from the bus station to the airport and I said it was fine because it was only a 5-7 minute drive, so while we were at Starbucks, she bought my drink and wouldn’t take no for an answer. She’s a magical fairy :)
ESFP and ENFJ couples are so cute. sdkfdsfdfs
Okay so I spent all of my class thinking about that anon’s question because I think it’s awesome and I was trying to think of specific occurrences and here is what I came up with so far. I can only speak for myself though!
INFJ: I generally smile more with my eyes or I smirk really widely
ENFJ: I break into laughter and my hand movements are everywhere
INFJ: I live to let you shine
ENFJ: I live to bring into your awareness that you shine
INFJ: Let’s talk about meaningful things
ENFJ: LETS BE BEST FRIENDS!
INFJ: My inner world is flushed with emotions and playfulness
ENFJ: I engage in an array of facial expressions
INFJ: I maintain connections
ENFJ: I enhance connections
INFJ: I wait for you to push yourself (ie: I’m sensitive to your sensitivity)
ENFJ: I push you (ie: I sense your sensitivity and I challenge it)
INFJ: My imagination is silly and I like to smile to myself
ENFJ: I’m silly on the outside and I’m dangly
INFJ: I smile at strangers
ENFJ: I converse with strangers
INFJ: I take in all my emotions, and then I understand them logically
ENFJ: I have a million emotions and they’re just everywhere
INFJ: I walk slower
ENFJ: I walk faster and there’s like a certain beat to my steps
INFJ: I channel my creativity towards writing
ENFJ: I channel my creativity towards bringing out greatness in others
INFJ: I want to protect you
ENFJ: I want to help you
ENFJ: YAY EMOTIONS AND HUGS!
INFJ: Impossible to read, impossible to understand
ENFJ: Motives and emotions are clearer
INFJ: I feel your inner world
ENFJ: I feel your outer world
INFJ: My intuition is more global
ENFJ: My intuition is more focused on feelings (whether mine or someone else’s)
INFJ: I want to improve
ENFJ: I want to help others improve
INFJ: I view life universally
ENFJ: I view life emotionally
INFJ: Passively help people through the process (ie: Bring insight)
ENFJ: Directly help people understand their potential (ie: Motivate)
INFJ: Seek the truth, symbols, and meaning
ENFJ: Seek love, happiness, and hope
INFJ: Life feels like a deja vu experience
ENFJ: Life feels like I’m experiencing and seeing everything for the first time
INFJ: I understand through “seeing” feelings (only an INFJ will understand this..)
ENFJ: I understand through interacting in the present moment with my own or others’ feelings
INFJ: I personally greet everyone I know at a party
ENFJ: I greet everyone I know at a party and then befriend people I don’t know
INFJ: Understanding your emotions
ENFJ: Drawing out your emotions
INFJ: We need to save the world
ENFJ: We need to save one person at a time
INFJ: Synchronized with the world
ENFJ: Synchronized with others
And yeah :D I’m really just an INFJ who has an INCREDIBLY developed E side. And I have P tendencies. I’m not a perfectionist, I’m not organized, I’m not rigid, I’m really open to ideas and I don’t like the idea of closure. But I’m pretty introverted for an ENFJ. I don’t have a lot of friends because I like my alone time. I just meet a lot of people all the time and everyone knows me by name and face. I tend to go on bouts of introversion where I don’t hang out with people, or I switch from group to group or people to people. OKIE IM DONE!
I think it’s so cool when NFs at such young age (18-20) are so exuberant and eccentric. I personally think all NFs need to grow up with NF parents. And if we don’t, we can only truly start to learn who we are when we leave for college, apart from the home, in order to jump start all of our ideals, so freely, during our own time without any restraints. But it’s a much longer process, because we have to be able to distinguish and separate parental misunderstandings from internal struggles. We start from scratch all over again and build ourselves from there.
ENXJ’s are likely to be the ones who are able to balance a good social life and good academic standing.
Children who aren’t SJ personality types tend to be misunderstood by strong SJ mothers, especially those of NF type.
Because ENFX’s are welcoming, warm creatures that act in a genuine manner, they are best able to encourage introverts to have fun without them feeling pressured.